HOLDING SPACE

🌐 Holding Space is sacred
and it's a skill

one the World is still learning 
one i am still studying 🙇🏻‍♀️ 

through grief, shame, rage, 
through the raw, human things

or through simple
stillness ⚖️ 

i do not want to take it lightly
i do not want to fake it 🎭 

because the world doesn't just need
more healing

it needs more people who know
how to create safety for it to happen

how to hold
safe spaces 🪷 

because if you have ever had someone 
truly hold you and see you 

you know it changes
everything 🐛 

because if you love, you know, 
and if you know, you see, 
and then what you see 
is not the same as before 🦋

🙇🏻‍♀️ Dong is learning how to Hold Space by:

• choosing presence over performance
• witnessing instead of rescuing
• supporting instead of controlling
• truly holding instead of interfering
• staying regulated instead of being triggered

🪩 Dong is Learning that Holding Space can also mean:

• letting someone fall apart without rushing to gather the pieces for them. even if i love them. even if it breaks my heart
• noticing my urge to help and pausing long enough to ask: "is this for them? or for me?"
• staying when the room gets heavy, dense or intense. not numbing. not dissociating. not fixing. not spiritually bypassing
• being honest about my limits. holding space is not just presence - it is knowing when presence becomes performance
• letting the other person lead, even if i have walked this path before. even if i think i know where it goes
• trusting their timing. not pushing for breakthroughs or epiphanies. not needing the release to look a certain way
• believing that what is unfolding, even if it is big, messy or silent, belongs exactly as it is
• holding my own triggers so i do not project them onto their pain. their grief is not my unfinished story
• respecting their dignity, not turning their process into a performance i feel proud of
• sitting with what is uncomfortable, so they do not have to shut it down to make me comfortable
• being fully present with someone's pain, without needing to fix, rescue or manage it
• trusting their body's intelligence, even if it looks chaotic, strange or unfamiliar
• letting go of my need to understand and gain clarity. i am not there to interpret. i am there to stay